Beyond Words: Men’s Untraditional Paths to Wholeness
“The body remembers what the mind forgets.” — Bessel van der Kolk. For years, men have been told, “It’s good to talk.” And for many, including myself, talking has been a lifeline. But what if words are not always enough? What if true healing lies in something deeper, something unspoken? I have seen this truth […]
Success and the Shadow: Why Doing It All Is Not Enough
Many high-achieving men feel a quiet emptiness behind their polished lives. This blog explores Carl Jung’s concept of the shadow—and how confronting the parts we hide is essential for wholeness, authenticity, and emotional clarity.
The Unseen Weight of Always Becoming
What if the drive to constantly improve isn’t about growth—but about guilt? For many men, self-improvement isn’t a path to wholeness. It’s penance. A quiet attempt to fix what was never broken, to earn worth that should never have been in question. This blog explores the hidden toll of always striving—and the radical freedom of accepting our imperfect, human selves.”
The Buried Life of Men: Why We Bury Ourselves and How to Resurrect Our True Lives
The buried life of men is a silent epidemic, where emotional suppression and rigid masculinity roles entomb the authentic self. This guide explores why men bury their desires and identities and how to begin the courageous journey of resurrecting one’s true life, through breaking silence, reclaiming desires, and embracing vulnerability
Rejection That Cuts Deep: Soulful Steps to Heal the Wounds of Gay Shame and Reclaim Your Life
Rejection can slice through our self-esteem like a blade. Explore why it hurts so much, how it shapes our identity, and how to begin healing from rejection that cuts deep.
From Certainty to Self: My Journey Beyond Fundamentalism
For years, I stood behind a pulpit preaching certainty. Now, I stand in my truth, uncertain, and learning to be honest. As a fundamentalist Baptist minister, I spoke of sin and salvation, heaven and hell, and God’s will as if I knew them intimately. My life revolved around defending “the truth.” And then, gradually, I […]
Forgiveness, Authenticity and Masculinity – A personal perspective
I have struggled with forgiveness for most of my life. Perhaps that is the consequence of growing up in a fundamentalist religion where forgiveness was demanded. Forgiveness was for the other person rather than a gift to myself. I also admit to an internal cringe whenever I hear terms like patriarchy and toxic masculinity. I […]
The Importance of Navigating Life’s Maze: A Reflective Analysis
Mazes are great activities to do on holiday or with children. However, they become less fun when we feel lost in the maze of life. There are times in our lives when we gradually or suddenly become aware that we are feeling confused and uncertain. The goals we were working towards seem like a mirage, […]